Depression can be experiencing a void, a loss, feeling empty, and alone even when in the presence of others. Depression can also be irritability.
As with anxiety, Depression manifests in FOUR main ways: THINKING problems/difficulties, unwanted BEHAVIORS/problematic behaviors, and uncomfortable PHYSIOLOGICAL experiences such as fatigue, body aches, and pains, little to no energy, heaviness or what feels like dead weight, and OVERWHELMING EMOTIONAL EXPERIENCES, such as feeling inadequate, miserable, alone, defeated, weak, helpless and hopeless, like things will never change.
Examples of THINKING difficulties include but are not limited to the following: seeing everything through dark lenses; only focusing on the negative; finding yourself in a rabbit hole or hamster wheel of one negative thought after another.
Examples of unwanted BEHAVIORS: isolating from others, no longer doing things you used to enjoy, calling off work sick where it has become a problem, no longer having an appetite so you have stopped eating, etc, difficulty with sleep (sleeping too much or restless sleep)
I will work with you to bring the following states of mind to your Depression: MINDFULNESS, ACCEPTANCE/ALLOWING, COMPASSION, KINDNESS, TOLERANCE, AND PATIENCE.
I will work with you to help you think of a depressive moment as just ONE MOMENT in time, rather than viewing this experience as never-ending.
I will help you identify other parts of you that are not depressed, and that are not experiencing thoughts of wanting to die.
A brilliant author and therapist Dr. Janina Fisher teaches us to think of ourselves as having various parts. The depression dark hole can be a part. Your cheerful adventurous self is a part. The part of you that goes to work and handles business is your adult part.
Breaking our experience of ourselves into parts allows the heaviness of the depression to feel less heavy. It is also more attainable and feasible to see the light, and not just the darkness.
The tools I will teach and practice with you will help you better tolerate the presence and existence of depression when it happens, and ultimately work towards significantly reducing experienced depression. You and I will also work on exploring the underlying causes of your specific depression and address those causes accordingly.